Tiger Mom (Amy Chua): Worse Parenting Style Ever

My family and I were enjoying a nice family lunch in the house. We hardly ever see each other, so we cherish every minute of it. My mom decided to start off with an interesting topic that one of her customers asked her. She ask if I have heard about the Battle Hymns of the Tiger Mother, I nodded my head and laughed really loud. I reassure my mom that despite how chaotic and unethical my family is towards me, they were by far better parents than tiger mother, no offense to Amy Chua.

For those of you who have never heard of this book, I will give you the basic synopsis here. Amy Chua, a Harvard law alumni is a law professor at Yale University. She have successfully wrote other books about the economy and other intellectual stuff that I probably wouldn't understand. One of her books The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother became an instant hit, but it had a lot of critics chasing after her. The book is about parenthood, strict discipline to the max. She has these set of rules that her two lovely daughters must obey or else serious consequences will happen to them.
Here are the deadly rules from wikipedia:
1)You may not attend sleepovers
2)You may not have play dates
3)You may not be in school play
4)You may not complain about not being in the school play
5)You may not watch tv or play computer games
6)You may not choose your own extracurricular activity
7)You may not get anything less than an A
8) You must always be the number 1 student in all your subjects except for gym and drama
9)You can only play the violin or the piano, and nothing else
10) You were not allow to not play the piano or violin
Basically, the children are force to succeed academically and to succeed in things that will make them appear like a woman of high status ( ex: piano and violin). The level of success these children must obtain is not of good, great, or decent. It must be perfect or else they don't get birthday presents, toys, celebrate holidays, hannukha presents, lunch, dinner,etc. They were not allow to have a social life because it could be a distraction from perfection. These poor girls were constantly being told that they were garbage, useless, and nothing. Well I have to admit as much as people say that it's borderline abuse, one of her daughters received acceptance to both Harvard and Yale. Despite her successful outcome, I still have to say the tiger mom method is the worse method ever.It's pathetic that the only way for Amy Chua's daughters to succeed was to constantly have their tiger mom write to do lists, commanding, forcing, and ruling in their lives. Plus the fact that Amy and her husband are both Ivy leaguers, definitely have a big weight on how their daughter got into a top school. On top of that, Tiger mom married a caucasian man giving their daughter the best physical features. Status is earned, not given, and from reading the book it seems like tiger mom gave her daughters their academic success, they didn't earn squat. I find that the author does a bad job teaching her child about society, human experience, relationships, people skills, and all the necessarily component for a child to grow and develop. I have friends who have parents that abide by the tiger mom method and the outcome is horrendous. Once their child steps foot in college and experience the first breath of freedom without understanding that freedom requires great responsibility, their perfect little status will be crushed in no time. A lot of my friends end up failing classes, kicked out of college, or doing something weird and outrageous with their lives. And these were once straight A's, top of the class students in high school with tiger moms behind their backs 24/7. Tiger mom, wait till your daughter experience their first set backs, their first relationship break up, their first mistakes, and their first everything that they never experience in high school. Usually the first cut is the deepest, and it would really suck to experience that while juggling Harvard courses and everything.

Love and Happiness

Happy Late Thanksgiving

I had a great thanksgiving break, hanged out with friends and family. My favorite part was talking about fat, aquatic animals swimming in the ocean (fat people having sex), puppies (man boobs), and poo (breaking toilets). These are the best conversations I've ever had in my life. I learn that true friends are the ones that would enjoy a good laugh about something as simple as poo. Throughout my life, the people I know usually talk about boring stuff like money, finance, houses, or how impressive they are. A lot of times I was told that future docs should concentrate on serious conversations, but I think that is the dumbiest bull shiet ever. Our childhood era is gone, we are at the age of stress, where we have to think about career, money, husbands, etc.. If we continue to drone about these stressful aspects in our conversations and social events, we be sucked dry of everything that is positive and enlightening. This is why people become depress and suicidal. I guess some will call me crazy and out of control, but I say it's all part of savoring the moment before it's too late.

Weird Animals

I never thought in a million years I be living with lesbian dogs and a dumb face rabbit, but what can I say, anything can happen. The weirdest part is, I never thought in a million years that I be living with the man of my dreams in New Orleans. I know that every Asian parents would constantly say this to their kids "first education, then get job, then get marry," this is fucken bull shiet. This is the reason why majority of working asian adults end up sad and single, or just settling with the wrong person. Love is the hardest thing to find, it's like trying to find a needle in a haystack. It's something that requires time and experience, which is why kids should start dating during high school. If students are well-informed about sexual diseases and the usage of condoms, then high school dating wouldn't be a problem. Thus, students will gain more experience about the opposite sex and what to look for in a soul mate. Sigh, too bad for majority of the asians, it's either die alone or fuck the wrong person and regret it later on in your life.

As for people out there looking for love, here is the mentality that you should have: "Love is looking for me, but I am making it hard for it to find me. So if I want love to find me, I must make myself as noticeable as possible." Your true lover is someone that is impress by your simple presence. He or she is someone that you can have hours of interesting conversations with. He or she is someone that you can't stop thinking about throughout your day. He or she is someone that makes you giggle for no specific reason. He or she has been looking for you, but you are for some reason hidden somewhere in your house watching tv. So the best way for this special person to find you is either go out more often and be online in chat forums. Who knows love could be a person in a cafe who spilled hot coffee on you, or a sweetheart in a medical forum, anything is possible with love:)

Hallucinations

I always value different people, animals, or hallucination in my life. I felt that there's always a reason why I meet some people coincidentally or why there was a 75 pound imaginary dog on my bed. I end up consulting my friends about these hallucination and have received some very informative advice. The advice was to concentrate on the symbolism of the dog/wolf and how it pertains to the individual. For some people they represent strength and freedom, escaping from whatever that ties the person down. However, I didn't feel tied down at the moment, I felt confused and wondering if I'm going through the right path. I felt that maybe the wolf and the dog represent wisdom and knowledge. Therefore I came to the conclusion that a future mentor will show up and help me through my path. In the mean time, I must stay focus, so if he or she does shows up, I be ready.

Today, I was searching for answers, and through my search, I was insulted and pushed away. But I kept coming back because I need the answers very badly. Through great attempts, I received an email from a potential mentor, who finally gave in a smile. Through this, I have a feeling all my questions will be answer, and my path will be revealed.